“The only thing that stays the same is that everything changes.”
That is my new personal saying. Of course, I know God never changes, but I’m talking about our lives here and now. The sun comes up. The sun goes down. Change. The wrinkles and rolls that didn’t used to be there are now. Change. The sink was clean, but now it’s full of dishes. Change. The car was full of gas, and you just hope you make it to the gas station. Change. You were healthy, but now you find out you’re not. Change. There is another empty seat at the dinner table. Change.
Change happens pretty much every moment in some way. Yes, it may be just a small little thing you don’t even notice until much later. Or it is a huge thing that affects every part of your life. Some changes are necessary and good. Some changes hurt like the dickens.
Just like you, I’ve seen a lot of changes over my life. It seems that most of them have taken place in the last 10 years, but I guess that’s because many of those I can’t say I relish. The big ones are, obviously, the toughest to get past. I can deal with the dirty dishes, the need for more gas in the car, and even the wrinkles and rolls. It’s the empty seats at the table that take some adjustment.
We’ve had a lot of seats to go empty over the past decade. I suppose we’re no different from any other family, but you know yourself it feels like you must be the only one going through these things. Mama used to say that the older you get, the more death you experience. I couldn’t understand that back then, but I certainly understand it now!
Saying “til we meet again” to Daddy in June was tough. I know I’ve handled it much better than I did when Les died 7 years ago, but I have to tell you, it is the toughest one to date. All my life my daddy was there to support me in every way and he was the one on whom I most relied to help me pick up the pieces of my ripped apart life and carry on. He left us with much responsibility and it makes me miss him even more as we muddle through making the best possible decisions to carry on his legacy.
January 1, 2019 will be here in a little over 24 hours. Our calendars will change, but life will continue on pretty much just as it has. I know we look at the new year as a new chance to make improvements in our lives and there is certainly nothing wrong with that. But the truth is that every single moment is a new opportunity. We don’t have to wait for a flip of a calendar page. Right this moment, we can embrace the life we have been handed and move forward toward the next coming change, better and not bitter. That doesn’t mean we forget those who so impacted our lives. It means we honor them by living the best life we can while we can.
Lots of love, Sharon